Growth does not come in the easy way we would like. We would like think that we grow by fun, happiness and good times. Wrong. We grow by facing challenge. Suffering is a promise that life always keeps. We can avoid suffering, we can become imbittered by suffering (see life isn’t fair) or we can learn to embrace our suffering.
By that I do not mean those “psychological martyrs” who make superficial suffering another defense against the real thing but to embrace the real pain that comes our way allowing it to be pain. What can our suffering teach us? Suffering can teach us the deep “stipped down” essential truth about ourselves, others and the nature of reality.